Bully Syndrome is a chronic disease. This is a disease which is a
mental condition created by a broken mind, jealousy, and poor
self-esteem. This is a disease where one enjoys the misfortune of
others, attempting to create the persona of being better, more
accomplished, and well-adjusted in their lives. It is a disease that
distorts the truth and makes the bully tell one lie after another for
their own benefit. A disease which makes the lies into truths in their
own minds. A disease which also keeps the mad-up stories as "real
truth" in their sick minds.
My adult woman bully makes sick jokes about my son, on public
internet, who she believes is and calls "bastard". In fact, the word
"bastard" is in full caps (BASTARD) as she describes my son and me, as
his mother. She, herself, bore a child out of wedlock but refuses to
call her child the same horrible word. Of course and as usual, she has
validation of such. Her child cannot be as it was conceived in love.
But so was mine! It was a mis-guided love at the time, but it was love.
My "bastard" son has grown into a man rich with family and love.
He protects his mother at all costs and refuses to answer to a woman who
is nothing more than a gossip and toxic woman. His many visits into
our home with his wife and child make life wonderful and memorable. His
father denied the existence of my son until many years later when the
State made him succumb to a blood test by court order. He was charged
back and current child support. At the time, he was married with three
children of his own and began reluctant visitation with a son elated to
finally get a chance to know his father. His father, step-mother, and
step brother and sisters were not kind to him yet he took their abuse
with a smile and good attitude. When I decided to relocate to the State
of Virginia with my husband, my son wanted to stay with his father. He
was desperately wanting this relationship to work. Because my handsome
son would be staying with his father, I signed off over $16,000 in back
child support so that his father's family would not suffer from this
financial burden. I never relinquished custody, my son was never
legally taken from me; we had joint custody with primary residence given
to my son's father at that time. My son returned to me just a little
over a year later, crushed at the attitude of his father towards him.
His father making up stories of bad behavior and contempt for the
child. We found out later it was the children of his own family that
were making my son fight a losing battle to win his father's attention.
One story was of his father smoking marijuana and giving it to all of
this children; illegal and under-age. My son graduated from high school
with honors, has gone to college, and has worked hard to become a
supervisor in a healthcare company. He has nothing to do with his
father and calls my husband "dad". The man who took him in and taught
him how to be a good man, proficient in mechanics and encouraging good
grades. The man not his biological father. He credits my husband and I
for standing with him in his struggles of faith and family. He has
loved me unconditionally. My son is full of love and service, he loves
his child and involved in all of her activities. He treats with wife
with love and respect as I would want him and trained him to be. He is God-fearing, prays and read scripture daily, and works faithfully in his church alongside others. He is
not at fault as to how he was conceived; he just needs to know how loved
and appreciated he his as all children need in their lives.
I have never gone back and asked for the child support that is owed
to me. I still can and maybe I should. This would cause truth to
unfold! Why cause further grief and pain when guilt will eat up this
man one day. After all, the man that could not be father has been
married and divorced several times since this has all happened. He
cannot support himself or a family. Maybe I should tell how this
person was returned from a Mormon mission for attending a concert and
having sex with women while professing love of faith and religion?! But
this is a world of second chances and down-and-out stories, isn't it?
The dirty secrets of those gossiping could no longer be kept secret.
Well, for most of us with exception of those inflicted with Bully
Syndrome.
My adult woman bully did not offer these truths in her story of
slander because it would not be of interest. One cold, heartless, and
cruel person obviously sickened with "bully syndrome" has to exaggerate
and lie to have a following. Of course, she has her "army" of persons
that believe what they are telling her is truth when in fact some of it
might be but most is being found out to be false. Of course, she has
not admitted on public internet how she lost custody of two of her
children to mental illness. Of course, she has validation for this as
usual while others are wicked in the course of parenting their own
children.
I am no longer ashamed of my past as I will share. Because, our
God is not only the God of second chances; He is the God of another
chance. This is good news for me because I seem to mess up but less
frequently than before. This is an amazing facet of God's character!
His incredible patience with us! Psalm 86:15 says it well: "But you,
Lord, are a God Mericiful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in
steadfast love and faithfulness." Micah 7:18 states, "Who is a God like
you, pardoning iniquity and passing over transgression for the remnant
of his inheritance? He does not retain his anger forever, because he
delights in steadfast love." Steadfast love! This is the love that I
have for my son. Unconditional love that has overcome.
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