The Ramblings of my Beautiful Mind
Sunday, December 4, 2022
Sunday Best
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
We had an interesting class last night. We are speaking about mental disorders that can alter the journey of one's path. Are they really mental illness or the attempt at being a coward? I have always wondered about the mind of the coward, though.
Here are some of my thoughts:
- Cowards are pretty consistent in their cowardice. I’ve never seen a coward doing something brave.
- If you put a courageous person next to a coward, the coward will become less scared; or more brutal!
- However, it is possible that she (the coward) is just acting brave because she is afraid of the consequences of having a braver person witnessing her cowardice.
- Short: the coward becomes braver because she’s afraid of being called out.
- Never blame a coward! It’s not her fault; or is it?!
- Never trust a coward!
- Bravery is the most inconsistent virtue of all.
- Alcohol makes people brave while a hangover can turn you into a coward.
- Once a person has committed an act of cowardice, it’s very difficult for them to change their behavior. Cowardice sticks.
- Bravery, on the other hand, doesn’t. It is easier to bully behind a computer screen than it is to live in the real world.
- Coward is an ugly word. It isn’t helpful and should never be used on the battlefield.
Tuesday, October 18, 2022
Sunny Days
There has never been more of a beautiful day than today! Do you have those kinds of days where everything falls into place? The weather is perfect, people are perfect, employment is perfect, and home is perfect. I have never been more grateful for my blessings than I am at this moment.
I had an amazing class last night. It is all about understanding our own levels of emotional immaturity. People who are emotionally immature don’t meet society's expectations for social behavior within their age range. It’s safe to assume that a grown-up will be able to consider their impact on others and pay attention to their feelings. Emotionally mature people can accept criticism and learn from it. Adults with emotional maturity can think about and plan for the future as well. People with emotional immaturity, however, struggle with these things.
Emotionally immature people lack certain emotional and social skills and have trouble relating with other adults. Some behaviors can be a signal that you’re dealing with an emotionally immature person. In general, adults don’t resort to schoolyard tactics when they relate to other adults. You seldom see two adults calling each other mean names. Someone who behaves like a mean kid in school is not using mature emotional tactics. Instead, they are relying on childlike displays of temper. An essential facet of maturity is the ability to think about other people’s needs and feelings. Immature people only appear to care about themselves. They dislike compromise and don’t want to take other people’s ideas into account. They always want to have their own way.
I guess I will have to work to understand how the emotions of another works. I can empathize but not sympathize. Creating healthy boundaries has been working as well as the assistance of professional agencies. I will not be a victim of a person who cannot handle personal issues let alone attempt to solve issues of our surroundings.
This is one of the blessings of the day! I am grateful for the opportunity to keep on learning and growing.
Sunday, October 9, 2022
Entitled or Blessed?
ave you ever met someone who seems to act like the whole world owes them? Someone who is not satisfied unless their own needs are being met. Trying to deal with someone who has acted this way can feel frustrating. In fact, in society, this type of behavior typically attracts strong criticism and condemnation. If this sounds like someone you know, you may be dealing with someone who has a sense of entitlement, defined as "an unrealistic, unmerited, or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others."
Sometimes I Have to Laugh!
Not every self-centered person you know is a true narcissist. But there are trademarks of the personality disorder that you might be able to identify. “A narcissist, by definition, is someone with a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy,” says Cory Newman, PhD, a professor of psychology at the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania who has written on narcissistic personality disorder. He points out that the disorder is also one that emerges in early adulthood.
It’s difficult to say what exactly causes narcissistic personality disorder, but both genetics and upbringing likely play a role. “To quite a degree, personalities are inherited,” says Newman. “But if someone was super indulged, always told that he or she was special or better than other kids, and never given limits, that would likely contribute.” At the other end of the spectrum, some researchers think that parental neglect can also contribute to narcissism which can include parental abuse which can include physical, psychological, and sexual.
I have a narcissist who is totally fixated on me. Her every waking moment is in the pursuit of me. Remember, narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them (a quote given to me by one of her “soul mates”). That awareness protects me from her games, lies, and manipulation. I love the software program that reports to me whenever my name and personal information is used. This is all coming together for another major lawsuit against her. Every click of the keyboard or screen shot or the entering of my personal information is being recorded by an agency hired by my husband and me.
Why the pursuit of me? Because she is stuck in a circle of her own despair, her own cruel and violent making. Reports from her classmates have told us that she was a crazy, misled, cruel individual. Adults in her realm report a self-centered sense of entitlement combined with her lack of empathy makes her ripe for taking advantage of people for her own benefit. Her threats, her personal self, her surroundings are ugly and cluttered. She has to dispute what she truly knows as truth because she cannot handle the reality of truth. She can’t handle that movement forward by me is a boost in her reputation of crazy.
Narcissists have an impaired or undeveloped self. They think and function differently from other people. They behave as they do because of the way their brain is wired, whether due to nature or nurture. The severity of narcissism varies. Some people have more symptoms with greater intensity, while other narcissists have fewer, milder symptoms. I understand this and I empathize with the plight and despair of what she suffers. Without empathy, narcissists can be selfish, hurtful, and cold when it doesn’t serve them to be charming or cooperative. To them relationships are transactional. Rather than respond to feelings, they’re interested in getting their needs met; sometimes, even if it means exploiting others, cheating, lying, or breaking the law. The illegal actions, and lack of payment on her judgment (though claims to be a law-abiding citizen), the searches, and the violations of a permanent injunction order will soon become public record … again. Thank you for the keystrokes and the look ups!
AND, I don’t apologize for moving life onward and away from her!
Not every self-centered person you know is a true narcissist. But there are trademarks of the personality disorder that you might be able to identify. “A narcissist, by definition, is someone with a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy,” says Cory Newman, PhD, a professor of psychology at the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania who has written on narcissistic personality disorder. He points out that the disorder is also one that emerges in early adulthood.
It’s difficult to say what exactly causes narcissistic personality disorder, but both genetics and upbringing likely play a role. “To quite a degree, personalities are inherited,” says Newman. “But if someone was super indulged, always told that he or she was special or better than other kids, and never given limits, that would likely contribute.” At the other end of the spectrum, some researchers think that parental neglect can also contribute to narcissism which can include parental abuse which can include physical, psychological, and sexual.
I have a narcissist who is totally fixated on me. Her every waking moment is in the pursuit of me. Remember, narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them (a quote given to me by one of her “soul mates”). That awareness protects me from her games, lies, and manipulation. I love the software program that reports to me whenever my name and personal information is used. This is all coming together for another major lawsuit against her. Every click of the keyboard or screen shot or the entering of my personal information is being recorded by an agency hired by my husband and me.
Why the pursuit of me? Because she is stuck in a circle of her own despair, her own cruel and violent making. Reports from her classmates have told us that she was a crazy, misled, cruel individual. Adults in her realm report a self-centered sense of entitlement combined with her lack of empathy makes her ripe for taking advantage of people for her own benefit. Her threats, her personal self, her surroundings are ugly and cluttered. She has to dispute what she truly knows as truth because she cannot handle the reality of truth. She can’t handle that movement forward by me is a boost in her reputation of crazy.
Narcissists have an impaired or undeveloped self. They think and function differently from other people. They behave as they do because of the way their brain is wired, whether due to nature or nurture. The severity of narcissism varies. Some people have more symptoms with greater intensity, while other narcissists have fewer, milder symptoms. I understand this and I empathize with the plight and despair of what she suffers. Without empathy, narcissists can be selfish, hurtful, and cold when it doesn’t serve them to be charming or cooperative. To them relationships are transactional. Rather than respond to feelings, they’re interested in getting their needs met; sometimes, even if it means exploiting others, cheating, lying, or breaking the law. The illegal actions, and lack of payment on her judgment (though claims to be a law-abiding citizen), the searches, and the violations of a permanent injunction order will soon become public record … again. Thank you for the keystrokes and the look ups!
AND, I don’t apologize for moving life onward and away from her!
Friday, June 10, 2022
Truth Excuses
Have you ever been around someone who "skirts around the truth"? They don't have the courage to speak or write the truth so they "skirt around the truth" and blame it on someone else. It is the person who plays the victim with the angry outburts and suffers from depression, even admits to it. Every bad thing in the world has happened to them. They are self-absorbed in a strange, negative way. Nothing is really their fault.
Sunday Best
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We had an interesting class last night. We are speaking about mental disorders that can alter the journey of one's path. Are they re...
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There has never been more of a beautiful day than today! Do you have those kinds of days where everything falls into place? The weather ...
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When people think of stalkers, they typically think of a stranger lurking in the bushes and looking into their homes, with ill-intentions...